A Man's Perspective...Life & Love (Part I)

Happy Friday Eve aka Thursday night, good people! How are you holding up during this COVID-19 pandemic? I hope that you're staying healthy and getting some fresh air-- step outside your front or back door and open up some windows. Sooo let's get to point of this post. I wanted to do something different and pull in the perspectives of others into the blog, so I figured why not do a Q&A with both a man and a woman? I came up with several life and love related questions and sent them to two thirty-something year old friends, one woman and one man. We'll post our lady friend's Q&A later on, but this post will cover Jay's (fictitious name) answers. Jay, thank you for taking the time to read through and answer my questions. You are appreciated!

FYI, this is just Part I of two sets of questions. For our Part II Q&A, the questions will come from my readers. Woot! Given that I'm giving you homework, get ready to come up with some good stuff, beautiful people.

Oh yes, I almost forgot to mention this one last thing. Do note that these questions might serve as some good "getting to know you" questions for a potential romantic interest. Thank me later. ;-)

• What was your biggest dream as a child?

To play professional American Football. I also wanted to be a computer programmer when I was in elementary school. I wanted the typical American Dream: Wife, nice size home, kids and maybe a pet.

• What defines you as a man?

Understanding my role as a provider as head of house. Doesn't necessarily mean I make the most, but I will do what ever it takes to make sure my family is in the best position possible. Being a leader of men. I was voted football team captain in high

school by my peers not because of my personality, but because of my work ethic and

leading by example. 

• From where does your moral compass stem-- who/what holds you accountable?

I hold myself accountable as we all should. My moral compass comes from my

upbringing and listening to my parents constantly preach to do what is right. There are

no shortcuts in life. Your character is who you are when no one is looking. 

• What's the fondest memory you have of your mother's love for your father, and your father's love for your mother?

Don't really have any, sad to say. I'm going to mention that to them. 

• What's it like dating in 2020? What makes it easy? What makes it difficult?

Have you seen the movie Hunger Games? That's 2020 dating in a nutshell. "May the odds forever be in your favor." I think attention span (or lack there of) has made it harder to date now. Technology is a primary driver for this issue in my opinion. We are in a popcorn world where everything is instant. If something doesn't pop right out about someone then they immediately get curved or ghosted. Sucks, but in a world where instant gratification is now the norm, that occurs with dating also. 

• How do you differentiate between infatuation and love?  

Infatuation is just a possibility. That's why you should continue to date someone for a while prior to you committing to a relationship. Everyone to a certain degree, places their "best foot forward." After a while you will finally see the real them. Unfortunately, at that point, the other individual is in love with a false representation of that individual. They have fallen in love essentially with a lie. But to answer the question only time helps you differentiate between love and infatuation. Infatuation dissipates slowly but love (unconditional) only grows stronger.

• If there were three things you would tell your future self, what would they be?

Invest in stock earlier, don't compromise your manhood/values for no chick and "get this money!!!"

• What's your mantra?

It's TRUE you don't know what you had until it's gone but it's also true you dont know what you're missing until it arrives.

Any questions for Jay? Ask below in the comments and I'll get them answered. Anything else, comment below!